How to Help a Woman...
Without Ruining Your Day

Two monks approach a stream swollen from a
recent heavy rain. They encounter a
beautiful young woman unable to cross. Although
they have taken a vow of silence
and abstinence regarding women, the older
monk offers to carry the young woman across
the stream on his back.

A few miles down the road the younger monk
angrily asks, "Why did you break your vow
and carry that woman across the stream?" I'll
share the older monk's interesting reply
momentarily...

Do you ever feel angry, frustrated, or
worried? Do you occasionally boil at the
antics of bad drivers? Do you sometimes
seethe over the ineptness of coworkers? Do
you intermittently grind your teeth over
your spouse's annoying habits? Do you
frequently worry how you're going to make
ends meet?

Of course you do. You're human. If you're
like most, you have those feelings more often than
you'd like.

I have a solution for these feelings that
works 100% of the time you use it. This
solution is completely free and you already
possess it in abundance. In fact, you were
born with this solution - you've just
forgotten to apply it as you've become an
adult.

The solution is one of my newest Fun
Commandments - Accept the Things You Cannot
Change. And you already possess the
abundant humor nature necessary to accept
anything life throws at you. Humor, as you
will find, is as necessary for acceptance as
water is for coffee because it keeps you
flexible and buoyant.

But before I get into how to use humor to
accept the things you cannot change, let's
briefly discuss acceptance. Acceptance is
often maligned and misunderstood because
people think it means endorsement or
approval. Nothing could be further from the
truth; acceptance simply means that you're
not going to carry a burden of resentment,
fear, worry, or anger. You are moving on
with your life.

There are only three things in life, after
all, that you can control:

1. Your ideas
2. Your attitudes
3. Your actions

For every single thing falling outside those
three areas, you have only two choices: 1.
Try to control/influence it or 2. Accept it
and move on.

Think back to the last time you were angry
or frustrated. It involved something
outside of your ideas, attitudes, and
actions, didn't it? Trying to control
something outside these three areas is the
source of all your worry, fear, anger, and
frustration.

Simple...but not easy to remember, right? So,
let's create an action plan for
practicing my newest Fun Commandment, Accept
the Things You Cannot Change.

As you encounter something that you cannot
control today, make a choice. You will
either try to influence it or accept the way
it is and move on. If you are successful at
influencing it, great! If you are
unsuccessful at influencing it, accept it
and move on. Then simply repeat this
process throughout the day as often as you
can remember! (More on how to help yourself
remember later...)

For example, you're in the grocery store and
you reach the entrance of an isle
simultaneously with another shopper. Rather
than barge ahead, you smile and offer this
shopper the right of way. Your fellow
shopper, however, doesn't acknowledge your
kindness and barges ahead with a scowl.

You have two choices: 1. Accept the mood of
your fellow shopper, let it go, and move on
with your day or 2. Approach your fellow
shopper with more kindness in an attempt to
influence his mood. If you choose choice
number two and are unsuccessful, remember to
accept that and move on. The key is to
really let it go because if you don't you
will burden yourself by letting that shopper
take up space in your head - rent free!

And you can't afford to have your humor
nature weighed down by rent-free squatters
who sap your spiritual and physical energy
and resilience. You want your humor nature.
to fly free and unfettered today. You have
too much success awaiting you today to be
detoured by such burdens!

Let's finish the story about the two monks. The
older monk's wise reply is, "I only
carried her across the stream; you're still
carrying her." Get the message? Let it
go! Accept it and move on.

Next week I'll give you some amazing tips to
help you remember to accept the things you
cannot change. You'll use your humor nature
and have lots of fun. But, in the meantime,
practice your action plan and share your
results with me!

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Some Humor for the Week

"Most vegetables are something God invented
to let women get even with their children. While
a fruit is a vegetable with looks and money."
P.J. O'Rourke